Trans Day of Visibility

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Today, March 31st, is International Trans Day of Visibility.

What is Trans Day of Visibility? This is a day when we celebrate the lives of transgender folks around the world and their important contributions. This day can be a meaningful (and fun!) opportunity to celebrate the lives of our transgender neighbors and create homes and communities that are safe and welcoming.

Why does Trans Day of Visibility matter? All of us have needs for safety, significance, and belonging- we need to know that we are important to the people around us and that we have a safe place in our families and communities. Representation helps to reinforce these needs and increase self-esteem, especially for people with identities that are marginalized in our society. In addition to the recent increase in legislation aimed at denying gender-affirming care to transgender individuals (something that goes against the ethics and standard of care of all licensed mental health professions), the American Medical Association declared in 2019 that violence against transgender individuals is an ongoing epidemic. We know that LGBTQ young people who receive support from their families around their queer identities report higher self-esteem, social support, and overall health, as well as a 50% reduction in thoughts of suicide and suicide attempts. We can make our communities more safe and accepting for our transgender neighbors by familiarizing ourselves with the stories and experiences of transgender people. We can also be inspired by the joy, creativity, and brilliance of transgender leaders whose stories are not always shared! Learn More...

Telling Your Children You’re Divorcing: 5 Things to Consider

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When couples decide to end a relationship and it leads to the breakup of a family with children, the amount of information to process can be somewhat overwhelming. While the separation may be what’s best for everyone involved, how the information is shared with children will be a memory they hold forever.  How this family change is shared can impact the trajectory of the entire transition for each child. This process should be handled with tender care and with an emphasis on how you, the parents, will provide physical, mental, and emotional safety for each child.  Here’s a simple list to guide you through a very challenging decision making process which can help you share this news with your children in the most honest and gentle way possible. Learn More...

The Secret to Co-Parenting Success: Shifting from a Personal Relationship to a Parental Relationship

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As a Therapist who has spent over a decade working with families and children, I’ve had the great privilege of sharing the various journeys of many, many clients. Some journeys (especially at the end of my work with clients) take a positive turn; I cherish the moments when I see clients thriving and no longer needing therapy for the time being.  Most people, however, begin their work with me at the start of a challenging journey, such as a journey of separation and divorce. Since I specialize in working with children, teens, and parents, the caregivers typically reach out to me after they’ve made decisions to end their relationship. They are oftentimes seeking out support for the purposes of best caring for their children through the transition. Sometimes they need support in developing c0-parenting skills, and sometimes they need support in how to tell their children about the divorce (and most times, both).  If you need help in planning how to tell your children you are separating, this article may be helpful, here. Learn More...